Tickle your funny bone as well as your partner's: The Art of humor in a relationship:

Tragedy and pain are part of the human existence.  We are humans and this is a part of our lives.  We can bury our head in the sand when there are tragedy, pain and despair: or we can look at these situations with a sense of humor.  

Humor has been with us throughout the ages.  It is part of our lives even in very difficult situations.  How do we find humor?  Humor is inside of all of us. We just have to reach down into our inner spirit and find it. With a relationship, humor is as important as communication. People like to be with someone who is funny, optimistic, and likes to have fun.  You are more attractive to your partner if you have a sense of humor. Tell a few good jokes or a funny story.  It goes a very long way. People will want to be around you more because you are fun to be with.   

Having a good belly laugh can be a very powerful tool for reducing tension.  (You know how you feel after someone tells a good joke or a funny story.  You feel good.)

A good laugh may even help the immune system.  When you laugh hard, you release endorphines in your body which helps the immune system stay intact. Seeing the lighter side of things can help put suffering in perspective, fill you with hope and other positive emotions, take your mind off your pain, and may even do wonders for your health.  When you feel good and are laughing you will see things in a different light (maybe in rose colored glasses).

Some helpful hints to find your sense of humor:
1.  If you are immersed in a problem to find any humor in it. Try to seek out people with that special flair for seeing the funny side of a situation.  Join a support group. Many times in a support group, people find sense of humor about his or her situations.  When you see other people around you with a different perspective than you that dealt with some similar situations, and are laughing.  You may change your outlook.  Your situations may not change, however, you will be able to laugh, and see other people laughing as well.

2. Get in touch with your "inner clown," that playful, childlike nature that we all have but perhaps fail to acknowledge due to the seriousness of physical disabilities and emotional stress.
3. Read Funny stories of jokes.
4.  When you are in a stressful situation, take a deep breath and think of something funny.
5. Make a collection of funny stories or jokes that you can read or send your friends.
6. Write down funny things that your grandchildren have said to you.
7. DO NOT READ THE FRONT PAGE OF THE NEWSPAPER.  We always know what the front. page of the newspaper says. " NO news is good news."  Start with the comics and work backwards.  You may be too tired to read the front page by the time you get there.